I used to always look forward to New Years. Mainly, I wanted to find a party that was rockin’ and stay up all night. I thought that’s what was important. Binging, eating, and partying it up until the countdown and ball drop. Just to wake up hung over and say, “I’ll start my resolutions tomorrow, my head hurts.”
When that phase was done, you’d find me in my living room watching the ball drop on TV wishing I’d be there. I even told my husband a couple years ago, “We should totally do that! Being in Times Square would be so cool.”
I definitely don’t have the same sentiment. Today, you will find me in my living room, drool dripping out of the side of my mouth because I fell asleep at 10:38.
And I definitely don’t view New Years the same way.
I used to jump on the bandwagon and take this day to make an impossible list of changes to make myself a different person: a better person. Or so I thought.
This list would often look something like this:
- I will exercise 5 hours a week.
- I will stop eating all fried foods.
- I will stop eating chocolate.
- I will stop eating after 7.
- I will stop drinking so much wine (I’m not really sure WHY this would even be there)
- I will get up at 4 every day.
- I will lose 45 pounds.
- I will save money.
- I will stop using my credit cards.
- I will do more work from home.
Something totally like that. I’m sure you’ve been there- maybe you’re even there today. Maybe you are concocting an endless list of changes you are going to make to become a better person, a healthier person. Maybe you are trying to change yourself. Maybe you think that writing this list will be all it takes to change who you are and make you a happier person. After all, that’s what New Years is about, right?
Now that I’m
almost 30, my resolutions look much different.
- Spend more time playing with my kids and loving my husband..
- Spend more time keeping the house organized (this one’s kind of a joke).
- Spend more time being active.
- Spend more time in prayer and being thankful.
- Spend more time thinking about how I’m awesome.
- Spend less money on things.
- Spend less time worrying about food.
- Spend less time working at home.
- Spend less time wanting more.
- Spend less time thinking how I’ve failed.
Even just the switch in the verbiage makes me hopeful for 2016. I know that looking back at 2015, I realize how quickly a year can fly by and spending my resolutions on time makes the most sense. My resolutions may not be 100% tangible or measurable. But creating a list of impossible items for myself like in the first list just sets up an ‘all or nothing’ scenario that often ends in failure (see number ten on my new and improved list), which totally defeats the purpose.
Instead of taking this time to list 153 things you need to do/ stop doing, think of 10 things you wished you had done in 2015. Think about what really makes you happy. I know dropping 25 pounds in theory would make me happy, but not in the sense of my inner being. Not to the person I am today: A wife, mother, teacher. My outward appearance is already fading- and that’s okay. Losing weight is totally on my mind, but spending time worrying about it is not the way to do something about it. Doing something about it is the only way to truly make a change. Making a list won’t change anything. Setting time out for yourself is the only way.
Make your resolutions about time because you don’t know how much of it you have left and I don’t know about you, but I want to spend it on what makes me happy: my family. In 365 days, I want to celebrate success. I want to be happy about how I spent the year. I wrote a few years ago about New Years Revolutions… my revolution is to use my time better to meet the needs of everyone in my heart first, then it’ll be allocated to whatever is left. Time, my friends, is precious.
Cheers and be safe!